Zašto je u redu da žena bude emotivna – Why it’s okay for a woman to be emotional

U poslednje vreme gledam Američku emisiju „Say yes to the dress“, uhvatila sam sebe kako plačem na svaku epizodu.
Znam da žene mogu odlično da pokazuju ovo osećanje, ne kažem da muškarci ne mogu. Suočimo se sa tim da su žene bolje u pokazivanju svojih emocija.
Moramo prestati da na reč „emotivno“ gledamo kao uvredu.
Evo par razloga zbog kojih je u redu da žena bude emotivna.

ISPOLJAVANJE EMOCIJA POMAŽE U OSLOBAĐANJU OD BOLA

Hajde da pogledamo sa naučne strane, da li ste znali da istraživanje kaže da ljudo koji osecaju bol, osećaju olakšanje nakon što se isplaču. Parasimpatički nervni sistem (PNS) aktivira se ako plačemo, to nam pomaže da se opustimo. Plakanje je umirujuće, što znači da reguliše naše emocije, pomaže nam da se smirimo i smanjuje stres.

EMOCIJE NAM POMAŽU DA SE POVEŽEMO SA DRUGIM LJUDIMA

Ja sam jedna od onih osoba koju obuzme sreća kada me pozdravi kasir/ka u prodavnico. Volim kada ljudi pokazuju svoje emocije, osećam se povezano sa njima. Ostvarila sam prijateljstvo sa nekim ljudima sa kojima sam osetila toplinu pri prvom susretu. Volim kada ljudi dele svoja osećanja i nemaju problema da se otvore. Sa takvim ljudima volim da se povezujem, slušam, podržavam i saosećam.

MI SMO DOBRE U POSLU

O da, jesmo.
Neki ljudi će verovatno podići obrve zbog ove rečenice, ali dozvolite mi da objasnim.
Kao rezultat tpga što smo dobre u povezivanju sa ljudima, lakše nam je da znamo kome je potrebna naša usluga ili proizvod i zbog čega. Mi cenimo naše veze i zbog toga težimo ka tome da budemo dobre. Mnogi ljudi misle da naša emotivnost utiče na naše rasuđivanje ili da uvek tražimo nekog ko će se nositi sa našim osećanjima.
Svaka od nas se nosi sa tim na svoj način, samo trebamo iskoristiti to u našu korist.

EMOCIJE NAM POMAŽU U DONOŠENJU DOBRIH ODLUKA

Odluke koje donosimo povezane su sa našim osećanjima, na primer šta želimo za doručak ili da li želimo da glasamo za odabir predsednika. U poslu emocije utiču na naše odluke u kupovini. Razlog zašto vas nekad rasplače reklama ili odjednom brinete o korona virusu (da, ubacila sam i to. Haha) to je zato što tamo neko (marketing ekspert) želi da stigne do emotivnog dela vašeg mozga.
Sada ćes sigurno reći „Ja ne dozvoljavam da osećanja utiču na moje odluke!“ pa, to je ono što tvoj mozak kaže. Ali u realnosti postoje situacije u kojima čvrsto verujemo da su odluke donete na osnovu logike.

Ja čvrsto verujem da su osećanja ono što nas povezuje sa Bogom i ljudima. Stvarno je nešto posebno kada možeš da osetiš ljubav, ljutnju, tugu i sreću. I nije fer gledati na to kao da je slabost. Naše emocije nam pomažu da vidimo lepotu sveta oko nas. Pomažu nam da cenimo život.

Zato plači ako moraš, smej se ako želiš, ljuti se na nepravdu, nadaj se u iskušenjima.
Te emocija su ono što vi jeste.

Autor: Jane Rankin
Website: www.supermomwife.blog
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Why is okay for woman to be emotional

Lately, I have been watching this program in the U.S called “Say Yes to the Dress,” and I’m telling you, I cry in every single episode. But it’s a good kind of cry! I know women can relate to this feeling all too well. Not saying that men don’t, but let’s face it – us women are really good at expressing ourselves more. But that’s okay! Let me tell you why you need to stop seeing the word “emotional” as an insult. Here are a few reasons why it’s okay for women to be emotional.

Expressing Emotions Help Relieve Pain

Let’s take a look at science here real quick. Did you know that according to a study, people who are in pain will feel much better if they cry? The parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) is activated when we cry which helps us relax. Crying is self-soothing, meaning it regulates our own emotions, helps calm ourselves, and it reduces stress. When we cry, we’re not just easing ourselves from the emotional pain but from the physical pain as well. 

So next time someone asks why it’s okay for women to be emotional? Respond by saying, “Girl, it’s a form of relaxation too! You’re just pampering yourself!” 

Emotions Help Us Connect To Other People Easily

I’ve always been the kind of person who gets really happy when greeted by the Cashier at the supermarket. I like it when people show their emotion, it makes me feel connected to them, it doesn’t make me feel alienated. I’ve made friends with people who gave me that warm and fuzzy feeling when I met them for the first time. I love people who like to share their feelings and have no problem opening up to me. These are the type of people I like to connect, listen, support, empathize with. Women are very good at tapping that emotional side of another person and that’s why it’s okay for women to be emotional. We have no problem establishing good relationships because we gravitate easily to those who can feel what we feel and vice versa!

We’re Good In Business!

Hell yeah, we are! Other people might raise their eyebrows on this one but please allow me to explain. Going back to the second point, the reason why it’s okay for women to be emotional is that we’re very good at making good connections to other people. As a result, it makes it easier for us to know who needs our product or services and why. We value relationships thus we tend to be good at customer service – we basically are people pleaser! Some people think being emotional can cloud our judgments or we’re always going around finding someone to deal with our emotions. But we each have our own way of handling it, we just have to focus on using it to our advantage.

Emotions Help Us Make Decisions – Mostly Positive ones

The decisions we make are highly influenced by our emotions whether what we want to have for breakfast or who we’re going to vote for the Presidential elections. Businesses know our emotions affect our buying decisions that’s why if you find yourself crying from a Jollibee commercial or starting to worry about the Coronavirus (yes, I’m definitely inserting this one, lol) it’s because someone up there (a marketing expert) is trying to tap into that emotional part of your brain. 

Now, you might say, “Girl, I don’t let my emotions take over my decisions,” well, that’s what your brain is telling you. But in reality, there are situations where you believe the decisions you make are purely based on logic and rationality, but your emotions still influenced you to make that decision. According to research, there are people with certain types of brain damage affecting their ability to feel emotions that have been found to have a decreased ability to make good decisions. 

Now, the last reason why it’s okay for women to be emotional is that we handle conflict much easier than others. Making decisions and analyzing who did who is not difficult for people who feel very deeply. We’d usually make positive decisions where everybody is happy. And FYI, choosing happiness IS a rational decision. Why? Because why wouldn’t someone choose happiness and harmony in the first place? At the end of the day, our decisions should bring us to a place of happiness, not more arguments.

I truly believe that emotion is what connects us to God Himself. It’s truly special to feel love, anger, sadness, and happiness. It’s not fair to look at it as a weakness. Our emotions help us see the beauty of the world and the people around us. It helps us appreciate life.

So cry if you must, laugh if you want, be angry with injustice, be hopeful in trials. Those emotions are what made you who you are.

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